Should is such a negative energy word.
So many of us have been conditioned by the word should – what we “should” be thinking, feeling, or doing with our lives.
These expectations can weigh heavily on us and cause stress, anxiety, and disappointment.
In this post, we’re going to explore the power of letting go of the idea of “should” and how it can lead to greater freedom and happiness in our lives.
Recognizing the “Should” Mentality
The first step in letting go of the “should” mentality is recognizing when it arises.
“Should” is often related to expectations, obligations, and societal norms.
When we’re feeling stuck or frustrated, we might think “I should be doing this” or “I should be farther along in my career.”
It’s important to be mindful of these thoughts and recognize when they come up.
Questioning the Merits of “Should”
Once we recognize that we are caught up in the “should” mentality, we can question the merit of these beliefs.
Where are these expectations coming from?
Are they our own or have we internalized other people’s desires and beliefs?
Do they truly align with our values and passions?
Do you even know what YOUR values and passions are?
We can only truly know ourselves by asking ourselves questions that unravel our perception of things.
Choosing a New Path
When we let go of what we think we “should” be doing, we open ourselves up to the possibilities of the present moment.
Instead of focusing on should, you are free to focus on what makes YOU happy and what aligns with YOUR values.
With this, you’re able to make conscious choices that are more in line with your desires and goals.
Conscious choices that align with one’s values and desires can include things like:
- Pursuing a career that is meaningful to you and allows for personal growth
- Investing in relationships with people who support and value you
- Taking risks or pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone to try something new
- Developing healthy habits such as eating nutritious food and exercising regularly
- Practicing mindfulness and being more present in the moment
- Taking time for yourself to relax, recharge, and practice self-care
Final Thoughts
Letting go of the “should” mentality is a process and it takes a lot of self-reflection.
We need to identify the source of these expectations and assess their worth, to conscientiously determine the most beneficial course of action for ourselves.
Letting go of the idea of “should” leads to greater freedom, happiness, and fulfillment in our lives.
Embrace the power of letting go and becoming the master of your journey!